Life Sucks!

I had my Child Support Hearing and lost!  The Commissioner who heard our case had my circumstances mixed up with another case, got my income wrong, did not factor in my Ex's new wifes' income and was under the impression that the kids were with their dad more than 50% of the time.  All in all it was just wrong!  He ended up ordering my Ex to pay just $100/month in Child Support when I was asking for $600/month.  Heck, I would have been happy with $500/month or even $400/month.  Especially since the standard calculation is about $800/month.  My Ex and his wife are bringing in about $9,000/month and I am barely bringing in $2,600/month.  I don't think $600/month is going to break his bank or bankrupt him.  His freaking wife spends that much a month on her hair and nails!  Who spends $380 at the nail salon???  HOW do you spend $380 at the nail salon???

Anyhow, after spending the entire weekend in bed crying trying to figure out how we are going to survive on just my income, I called my attorney this morning and asked if we could file for a Revision.  This means a Judge, not a Commissioner, will hear our case.  The long of the short is yes...so I will be filing that by the end of the week.  My Ex is not going to be too happy about that especially since having technically won the last hearing he has been all smiles, chatting me up about the kids and being all buddy buddy with me.  At the kids school conferences last Friday he walked over to me and flicked a $100 check at me with a big smile on his face.  I just crumpled it up and shoved it in my purse.  Meanwhile, it's all I could do not to punch him in the face.  He has no idea what its like to have to decide between paying the electric bill or buying groceries.  He thinks of this as me getting money from him...he doesn't realize it's not for ME, it's for THE KIDS!  HIS KIDS!!!  For a roof over their heads and food on the table .  But he could care less if we all shared a room at my parents house.  And yes, he has actually said that to me.  It's unreal!!!

Then today I got a phone call from my cousin (who is like my sister) letting me know she went in for her 2 year follow up MRI yesterday (2 years since having been diagnosed with Breast Cancer, gone through treatment, had a double Mastectomy and been in remission) and she got the call today that they saw 3 spots on the Scan in the same place as the previous tumors.  This CANNOT be happening!!!  She CANNOT get sick again!  I CANNOT deal!!!  I am barely holding it together as it is...if she gets sick again I may lose it completely!!!  She goes back in on Friday for some more testing and all I can do is PRAY, PRAY, PRAY!!!

I also had a huge falling out with someone I used to think the world of.  I have never been so disappointed in someone in all my life.   Seeing her for who she truly is, or the person she has become, well it hurt alot.  And now that it has been a few weeks and I am not as mad, I am truly sad for the loss of the friendship I once cherished. 

That's it for now...

Kisses - A

Have so much to say...

...but don't even know where to start.

...maybe tomorrow.

Kisses - A

Why is dating so hard?

Are there any non-douchebags out there???  I am seriously considering becoming an old maid!!!  Or the creepy cat lady...

Kisses - A

Seriously...

...is this what my life has been reduced to???

So yesterday my son brought home his school pictures and after I looked at them I took a shot of the picture to text to his dad.  This is something I have always done if they are with me when the pix come home from school.  I also do this with awards and other school stuff if it happens to come home with them when they are with me.  Let me preface the text exchange I am about to share with the fact that I served my children's father with Child Support papers a few weeks ago and things have been a bit tense between us ever since.  I will shed some more light on that situation in a minute.

So here is how the text exchange went down, Me being 'A' and him being 'F':

A:            (text a photo of our son’s school picture)

F:            How many pictures are in there

A:            8.

F:            8 what size

A:            2  5x6, 8 wallets and 4  3 x 5

F:            If you want any you need to go to kinkos and make copies

A:            Excuse me?

A:            We usually split them.  Why do u need all of those?

F:            Those aren’t urs.  Those are mine  I paid for them

A:            U never consulted me when u ordered them so I cld have ordered some for me

F:            I have a big family

F:            That’s not my problem.  Like I said go to kinkos and make copies

A:            It is ur problem.  U never consulted me when u ordered them

A:            So this time I will go to kinkos….next year u need to consult me.  And I will want
                copies of missys too when she gets hers

A:            You owe me $11 for new pom poms

F:            I don’t need to talk u anything.  If u want to go to kinkos or give me $20 for the
                pictures and I will go to kinkos and I will make copies for myself

A:            When it comes to things school related you do need to ask me. C’mon…

A:            How much were the pictures for each kid?

F:            And u owe me $3000 for medical

A:            I asked u for copies of those bills to get u reimbursed

A:            And I am fairly certain u will be asking me for half of activities going forward so just
                being fair

F:            Now u want to start being fair?  You owe me a lot of $$$$

A:            I am trying to be fair whether u think so or not

A:            I asked what I owed u for.  You said medical and I asked for copies of bills

A:            How much were the school pix?

F:            $40

A:            Ok.  Can I give you $20 for half?

F:            No those pictures are mine and u can make copies if u want.  Those pictures are
                spoken for already

A:            Ok

A:            But next year please ask before u order school pic.  I wld consult u

 

Since serving him with the Child Support papers he is claiming I owe him for medical expenses for the kids for the past 5 years and he has apparently kept meticulous records for every single thing he has paid for and me being the naive one that I am I have not kept records of everything I have paid for.  So he is actually claiming I OWE HIM!!!  It almost laughable!!!  Here I am a single mom trying to make ends meet and he is re-married with a dual income and his new wife gets Child Support for her daughter.  So while they go on vacation a few times a year (Mexico, Vegas, Disneyland with the kids), remodel bathrooms, buy new cars and eat out a few nights a week, I am wondering how to make the mortgage payment, pay utilities and make sure we have enough left over for groceries...let alone go out to dinner!  It's just mind-boggling!!!

 

Anyhow, I cannot believe he is sinking so low as to not let me have a school picture of either of my children because HE paid for them.  But had he told me when he sent the order form back to school I would have ordered some for myself and gave him the money.  But UGGGHHHHH....that is not even the point!  The point is that he is getting so petty about this sh!t and I knew this was going to happen as soon as I filed and served those papers.  Hell ,it is part of the reason I waited so long to file them in the first place...I didn't want to have to deal with the fall out!

 

Well, HERE WE GO....

 

Kisses - A

A Cup of Coffee

A group of alumni, all highly established in their respective
careers, got together for a visit with their old university
professor. The conversation soon turned to complaints about
the endless stress of work and life in general. . .

Offering his guests coffee, the professor went into the
kitchen and soon returned with a large pot of coffee and an
eclectic assortment of cups: porcelain, plastic, glass,
crystal - some plain, some expensive, some quite exquisite.

Quietly he told them to help themselves to some fresh coffee.

When each of his former students had a cup of coffee in hand,
the old professor quietly cleared his throat and began to
patiently address the small gathering. . .

''You may have noticed that all of the nicer looking cups were
taken up first, leaving behind the plainer and cheaper ones.
While it is only natural for you to want only the best for
yourselves, that is actually the source of much of your
stress-related problems."

He continued. . .''Be assured that the cup itself adds no
quality to the coffee. In fact, the cup merely disguises or
dresses up what we drink. What each of you really wanted was
coffee, not a cup, but you instinctively went for the best
cups. . . Then you began eyeing each other's cups. . .''

''Now consider this: Life is coffee. Jobs, money, and
position in society are merely cups. They are just tools to
shape and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not
truly define nor change the quality of the Life we live.
Often, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the
coffee that God has provided us. . . God brews the coffee, but
he does not supply the cups. Enjoy your coffee!''

The happiest people don't have the best of everything, they
just make the best of everything they have. . . So please
remember:
Live simply.
Love generously.
Care deeply.
Speak kindly.
Leave the rest to God!

And remember -
The richest person is not the one who has the most, but the
one who needs the least.

The exterior of the person is not what is all important.
What they are and how they view and treat others is.
Your exterior is beautiful and what it contains is fantastic!!!

I will wait forever for....HAPPY!!!

AND here we go...

...where to start???

Well, I've been contemplating starting a blog for a while now.  It seems as though the people in my life these days...the ones I thought of as friends, hell even family...don't seem to be there for me much in the way of listening these days and I find myself feeling like I may explode more often then not with ABSOLUTELY no one to talk to.  I know, imagine that RIGHT?!?!  But I guess I have always kind of felt that way.  I mean, I have always felt like most of my friendships were a little more one sided...meaning I give all of myself, listen whole-heartedly, with very little of that in return.  I have always prided myself on the fact that I am an amazing friend.  But lately, especially over the past few months, I have just had enough.  These past five years have been some of the hardest years I could have ever imagined.  And well...well I am just tired of giving my all into friendships and the moment I call on that person for the same support...NADA!  It's like having a door slammed in my face and I am just over it!!!  And while unfortunately that leaves me with no one to talk to...well let's be honest, it's not much different then before I decided I was fed up!!!

So here I am...'You' get to be my 'Someone' to talk to.  Lucky you!!!  LOL

Well I could blog here for hours on end right now because so much has happened in the past few weeks...but it's late and I am exhausted.  So tomorrow it is!

Kisses - A

(Yes, I am a PLL fan for those of you who caught that reference)