I had my Child Support Hearing and lost! The Commissioner who heard our case had my circumstances mixed up with another case, got my income wrong, did not factor in my Ex's new wifes' income and was under the impression that the kids were with their dad more than 50% of the time. All in all it was just wrong! He ended up ordering my Ex to pay just $100/month in Child Support when I was asking for $600/month. Heck, I would have been happy with $500/month or even $400/month. Especially since the standard calculation is about $800/month. My Ex and his wife are bringing in about $9,000/month and I am barely bringing in $2,600/month. I don't think $600/month is going to break his bank or bankrupt him. His freaking wife spends that much a month on her hair and nails! Who spends $380 at the nail salon??? HOW do you spend $380 at the nail salon???
Anyhow, after spending the entire weekend in bed crying trying to figure out how we are going to survive on just my income, I called my attorney this morning and asked if we could file for a Revision. This means a Judge, not a Commissioner, will hear our case. The long of the short is yes...so I will be filing that by the end of the week. My Ex is not going to be too happy about that especially since having technically won the last hearing he has been all smiles, chatting me up about the kids and being all buddy buddy with me. At the kids school conferences last Friday he walked over to me and flicked a $100 check at me with a big smile on his face. I just crumpled it up and shoved it in my purse. Meanwhile, it's all I could do not to punch him in the face. He has no idea what its like to have to decide between paying the electric bill or buying groceries. He thinks of this as me getting money from him...he doesn't realize it's not for ME, it's for THE KIDS! HIS KIDS!!! For a roof over their heads and food on the table . But he could care less if we all shared a room at my parents house. And yes, he has actually said that to me. It's unreal!!!
Then today I got a phone call from my cousin (who is like my sister) letting me know she went in for her 2 year follow up MRI yesterday (2 years since having been diagnosed with Breast Cancer, gone through treatment, had a double Mastectomy and been in remission) and she got the call today that they saw 3 spots on the Scan in the same place as the previous tumors. This CANNOT be happening!!! She CANNOT get sick again! I CANNOT deal!!! I am barely holding it together as it is...if she gets sick again I may lose it completely!!! She goes back in on Friday for some more testing and all I can do is PRAY, PRAY, PRAY!!!
I also had a huge falling out with someone I used to think the world of. I have never been so disappointed in someone in all my life. Seeing her for who she truly is, or the person she has become, well it hurt alot. And now that it has been a few weeks and I am not as mad, I am truly sad for the loss of the friendship I once cherished.
That's it for now...
Kisses - A
